Days of our lies

February 22, 2011 by Leave a Comment

Sounds like a soap opera right? How much they resemble our lives at times is truly scary. Sometimes we consciously choose that drama and sometimes it is delivered to us to see what we can do with it all. I had a chance to tell this friend of mine who was feeling badly for my daughter that she was living a much more truthful life than all of us. She is looking at the fragility of this life this stay here on what we call our home. I have always had more of a challenge of feeling totally landed here on earth. I now know that there are millions of realities and this one is important to learn from. It is neither pure Maya ( illusions) nor is it the only reality there is. It is not even the only reality we experience.

The lies that exist in being told that this world is just a joke and therefor you don’t really have to do anything  is just  as destructive as being told this world is everything and your only chance. What is your relationship with the truth of your life? We have to know the lies before we know the real truth. You can’t skip the funky stuff and just float on over to the “good” stuff.

My teacher used to say carry a recording device around and listen to yourself all day. At the end of the day listen to what you have said. It will give you insites into so much but you will get to see the lies you tell all the time along with the wonderful ways you can speak into the hearts and souls of others. It is very revealing.

Another gift is this technique. Pick a situation you are facing and speak into a recording device on just that topic for 1 hour. Yes give yourself one hour and then listen back to it. You will find unearthed wisdom. Yes you are bound to get stuck and say okay I have said enough I’m done but 1 hr keep going. You will unearth all sorts of things. Let yourself, should you choose to accept this gift, be as neutral about what you think is great that came through you as the places you hit the wall.

I want to go back to the last blog and give you my answers for the lies in the second story Lies that  were apparent to me.

1. That asking for help is not a good thing

2. When you know what you are short of avoid it.

3. So hard to go where it is hard for us. Easier to say you don’t need or want that thing.

4. If I need something it means I bad I can’t do it myself.

5. What I really want is the hardest thing for me.

Do those two exercises I gave you and see how you communicate with others and then with the self.

Blessings

Gurutej

© Copyright 2011 by Gurutej Khalsa. All Rights Reserved. This article may be copied and used in your own newsletter or on your website as long as you include the following information: “Written by Gurutej Khalsa, spiritual teacher, writer, speaker, Energy Guru and success coach. Gurutej Khalsa has over 200 free articles, tools and resources for your success, including a great newsletter. Sign in here www.gurutej.com for your free gift.

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No no’s and their antidotes

February 1, 2011 by Leave a Comment

The no no’s and their antidotes.

Great Relationships are based on Trust, Honor, and seeing the soul of each other. Feed those and repeat  over and over. Oh please bring a big dose of humor it can save you from battle fatigue.  Meaning you can’t take yourself or the situation to seriously….ever.

I am going to give you the don’ts and then the fixes, the things you want to fixate and feed on. We often get attached to being right and defending our stance so here are my things to avoid unless you are ready to destroy your relationship. Don’t think any of these will be new to you just look at them see which ones you buy into and then really meditate on the flip side of each one. Each weakness is the flip side of our biggest greatness. What we focus on and feed matters. Feed daily on the Do’s The don’ts will dissolve.

Ten no no’s and 10 yes yes’s

  1. Be attached to being right at all costs.
  2. Be unwilling to talk about things
  3. Clam up
  4. Be a bitch or rager
  5. Be a Blamer
  6. Keep score of your partners mess up’s and feed them back on a regular basis
  7. When stressed  act out (in your favorite manner there are many)
  8. Act irrationally on a regular basis
  9. Pit  (fill in the blank) against your partner by telling them about your fights
  10. Speak badly about your partner in public with or without them being present.

Most people know these are recipes for disaster yet we fall into these patterns more often than we care to admit. Then it becomes a pissing contest about who is being worse or more wronged. The great news is we can stop any bad behavior . We can create a red light and then have a positive action to replace it with.

Harmony is priceless and everyone wants to live in it we often don’t feel comfortable being there. We often equate Harmony with boredom and lack of being present. It is none of these. It is vastly being presence and takes some work to stay there but much less work than digging yourself out of the “dog house “ pit.

There are things I call interrupters: Things that break the focus when we are on a tear, a rage, a bitch a whatever. They give us back our real selves. The one we want to be with. Here is one to do instead of clawing eyes out.

Claw Dance

Two steps for a radiant, charismatic energy

Round up and tighten fingers in long clawed-like hands.

Come up tall on your toes swinging the arms out to the sides and up over the head in a big arc motion.  Breath in on the way up while saying “WHO”. Next, squat down while the arms are swinging downward in a big arc. Exhale saying “LA” on the way down. Keep repeating these 2 steps.

1-2 minutes

Gift of doing this

Strengthens thighs and increases energy. Replenishes your energy field and expands awareness. Helps clears the mind when facing challenges.

Use this breath in moments when you need to reclaim yourself from a difficult

situation, a frustrating moment, or when really angry.

Dragon breath will bring expansion.

Inhale with eyes closed in four equal parts through the nose or mouth, then exhale by extending your tongue out as far as possible and opening your eyes as wide open as you can. Share this with your children. Look at yourself in the mirror when doing this, and you will get another benefit: taking yourself lightly it is a very funny sight.  Do it in the middle of a fight see what happens. Focus Shifts, negative interlock breaks. Try it and see.

 

Benefits: here are your ten Great embracers.

  1. 1. Be Flexible
  2. 2. Practice Communicating, Practice listening whether you feel like it or not.
  3. 3. Open up. Don’t dump just trust.
  4. 4. Relate to the wisdom in yourself and your partner
  5. 5. Be the Claimer: Recite to yourself the things you love about your partner
  6. 6. Forgive yourself and your partner. Allow the possibilities of change for the better
  7. 7. When Stressed know what you need. Make a list when you are not stressed. Exercise, meditate, take a bath, hugs etc. eating not on the list.
  8. 8. Practice calm understanding everyone can fall apart it’s not sexy
  9. 9. Don’t share your fights with others unless they help you see how you contributed
  10. 10. Uplift your partner by how you speak to, with and about him/her.

 

Sounds easy right and I know sometimes it is not. We get frustrated. That’s why committed relationships are looked at as one of the most challenging paths. They are great at changing us make the change be one of wisdom, upliftment, vastness . Who wants anything less. It takes day to day moment to moment practice but remember why you fell in love with this person. You SAW them see them again, you will want to do these things.

 

© Copyright 2011 by Gurutej Khalsa. All Rights Reserved. This article may be copied and used in your own newsletter or on your website as long as you include the following information: “Written by Gurutej Khalsa, spiritual teacher, writer, speaker, Energy Guru and success coach. Gurutej Khalsa has over 200 free articles, tools and resources for your success, including a great newsletter. Sign in here www.gurutej.com for your free gift.

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Energy Gurus Mondays power days.

October 11, 2010 by Leave a Comment

I want Mondays to loose there dread therefore I am going to be sending you a special Energy Guru tip each Monday. So we have power Mondays.

Hueman Sustainability

What is the most touted and least understood word we use?

Take a deep breath and sit quietly for one moment and listen to the answer. What is everyone striving for which can never be reached by striving? What do we want for the world and yet can’t seem to have in our own lives? What is above and beyond any price tag?  Come on you know it. It is a distant longing in your being. This longing is encoded within us. Yes, that to which we all long to belong, but more than that. Did you just think I was going to hand over the answer to you? Let’s awaken it. Let’s experience it.

Try this with me. Don’t just read this, read it and do it, otherwise you will never get the experience of it.

Sitali Breath

Breathe out that stress…

Roll the tongue and stick it past your lips. If you cannot roll it, just make an “O” shape with your mouth with the tongue protruding slightly beyond the lips. Breathe in deeply through the mouth. Exhale slowly through the nose emptying the lungs all the way.

1-3 minutes

I know just sitting still is one of the most challenging things that any hueman can do. Yet it is of paramount importance. Start with a chant or a prayer and move into silence.

How do you feel now? If you did this for 1-3 minutes instead of just reading it you will feel more relaxed, more at peace. That which we want, march for, long for in the world, we also long for in ourselves. That word has just been used…. PEACE.

We can do all we can do to create more peace in the world all those things are great, gracious, and inclusive. Yet, if we don’t know how to create that state inside of ourselves, how can we think it will translate to all? Peace is an epidemic. It is contagious. Just go sit with some holy (whole) person, anyone will do. It can be the Dhali Lama, your parish priest, a movie that is uplifting or yourself hopefully, and you will experience peace. The place where your mind is calm and not jerking you all over the map, sit until you have this experience.

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