Is it true that if you don’t have sex regularly you will dry up? There is this myth going round, even prevalent in the medical community, that if you don’t use it your lose it. I am going to address this since it seems to be in the news of late when a very prominent person in the fashion industry just revealed what some might think a very long (29 yrs) celibate streak.
There are many reasons for celibacy. Some people embrace it because they had a very bad sexual experience. Some for spiritual reasons decided to use their sexual energy elsewhere. Some because an appropriate partner never showed up. Some to just see what would happen, an experiment, tried this path. So everything from curiosity, to energy, to fear, and more. There is not one reason I can speak of this as an authority since I was celibate for 17 years. Partially because no appropriate partner materialized but mostly a spiritual quest to see if meditation got deeper because of celibacy. I wanted to know what would happen and then it just kept going. I will say I didn’t notice that my meditations got deeper, but taking the break I came back to making love from a very different place. It is a meditation to me now.
Let’s face it relationships take time, but they are also a direct path to the Divine if we allow them to be so. They can become a walking awake meditation. Celibacy is not a medal nor a badge of honor in or of itself. If you are called to try it for a period to understand and not to judge it as good or bad or right or wrong then go into it consciously and embrace making love with the Divine.
We think of Sex in toooo limited of terms anyway. We think that a threesome is a walk on the wild side. What about making love with God? Embrace having sex with the entire Universe. Make love with each breath. Make each person you meet your lover. Get over the limitations. Become the best lover ever in the comfort of every room, environment, every breath that you can find the capacity to be the lover of that moment. Become the world’s greatest lover for real.
Much love much love much love