The Keys to Becoming Authentic – Are there really simple keys to living, being, feeling Authentic? Yes, and being authentic has different levels of awareness. You can’t expect the person struggling for money, willing to do anything to get enough money, to have the same level or authenticity as the person who truly is on a conscious path to liberation. I want to share a story I was given by Keith’s Nana yesterday. I felt she bequeathed me this story knowing I was going to be writing about authenticity.
She said she had a friend, who needed her help. Trust me she has lots of friends, for she gave people free psychic readings or what she would call seeings. She had a friend who was going through a messy divorce and had to leave her house for a few days and ask Nana to watch the house for her as she was concerned that her almost “was been” would come to the house and take things. He was, in Nana’s words, a wealthy rogue. So Nana agreed. She was in the house and the husband did indeed show up and started roaring. “What are you doing in my house?” Nana put her finger up to her lips to quiet him and said, “I am praying to St. Germain and El Moritz for justice in your case.”
This majically calmed the man and he said, “Oh good, then I will win.” Saying that, he turned and left the house very calmly. “He came in like a lion and left like a kitten.” Nana joked. Why? Because she was being authentic. She was indeed doing what she said she was doing. She had no need to lie or deceive or conceal. This truth and authenticity is the most disarming component of our being.
I am not saying being transparent with everyone and everything all the time is the way. I am saying that living in your deepest authenticity at all times is the only way to truly live. I have a very dear friend who has lived with her partner for 30 years (maybe more) and yet their level of transparency with each other is amazingly low. We set up patterns that work now, and then as we develop, we forget to update our authenticity in our relationships. You can’t live, truly live and be alive at 50 with the patterns you set up in your 20s. You can’t expect that (if circumstances and situations change in your life) you can go along acting as if they hadn’t changed. These very behaviors have brought many to bankruptcy financially, physically, and mentally. Because they, and sometimes, you, don’t want to update your circumstantial, earth, and ether data.
Being Authentic means we are willing to do monthly (if not more often) updates. I remember when I was about 7, I went on a trip with a cousin who I had never met and was a few years older than me. We went to visit our mutual aunt and uncle. The uncle was part of my clan and the aunt, hers. One day she said, “Time to even up.” I said, “What is that.” Her response was, “Come see.” We sat on the curb and she kindly said, “Take out your money.” I did. Then she took hers out and discovered that she had more than I did, so she “evened up.” She gave me the amount that made us each have the same amount. I am not recommending this in all things but I often think if we did this on a regular basis on so many levels we would be so much more authentic and so much happier. Evening up can mean many things but the thing it meant the most to me at that moment was not the money, but the caring about me and what I had and the acknowledging of what she had.
Check in and see how YOU can be most authentic first with yourself, then with the person you are most intimate with, then third, someone in your family. Look at what makes you inauthentic or authentic. There are always certain triggers that when engaged trigger fear that make you want to cover up, to make it less than or more than it is to get what you want or to hide your pain or weakness.
I invite you to spend this week willing to look at where you are most authentic in your life and where you cheat. For cheating is really about cheating you. Time to look at that one eye to eye and see if you still want to be always booby trapping yourself.
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Wahe Guru love to you,