I bought this birthday card for a friend. It showed a woman at her desk throwing her paperwork up in the air. The saying, “Less paper work, more fun.” Many of the dotcoms are trying this with game rooms, but they are quite competitive places, these game rooms. They have rollerblading hallways, bike trails, all sorts of yoga and nap rooms, so someone got the message that more play brings better work. Now we are talking about a very task-oriented, highly motivated, competitive group of “huemans.” Then there was last nite when I saw a quote from a spiritual teacher saying (and I’m paraphrasing): If you changed your work-to-play ratio from 70% work and 30% play to just the opposite, 30% work and 70% play, you would have the happiness you are chasing.
What I got from this is not to stop work but to stop making your life all work and instead “make it work.” We say: I am working on this, working out, working towards this goal, and working hard to make this happen. We never say, I’m playing at seeing the gift in this; I’m playing with my business; I’m playing out; I’m playing with this goal so I will understand it from all sides. Yet, in spite of this, every mystic leaves his students for time to play.
Play with children. Play with the Divine through poetry. Get the play of life and revel in it. Life is inviting you to play with it—to play inside of the easy and the challenges. Play is a way of conceiving and perceiving things.
How can you make your life more about play? How can you be playful and still meet the challenges? How can you not let people run all over you, yet not get your tail, your heart, your head, and your soul in knots over what happened or what someone said or did to you? Take the “you” out of those quotients. It is never about you. Truly, you are losing energy and joy when you react to what others are doing.
I’m going to share a personal story with you. Actually it’s 2 stories.
I work longs hours often but I truly love all I do. I also take all sorts of breaks. The other day, Sheru came in and said, “You are always at your computer. I couldn’t do that. Two hours is my max.” I said, “Since you left 2 hours ago, I did yoga, ate dinner, went to the 99cents Only Store (Oh, here’s a super tip. 8pm is the perfect time to breeze in and out), now I am back at my computer.” All day I take yoga breaks, work with clients on the phone while I walk through my garden and pull weeds. I think much better when I am moving. It seems to allow things to come through me better. Then I sometimes make my desk so I can stand up, sometimes I sit down. I don’t have a flat back side yet so I’m assuming it is working or playing out well. How do you structure your workday so there is fun, delight, play, yoga, and energy involved? I worked long days last week so I could do something I really really love—go to the beach; not just any beach, but really clean water. Laguna, ahhh.
I went to the beach and invited my friend Allana to meet me there. She did, and we had a wonderful couple of hours connecting on how consciousness is unfolding in our lives and businesses. It was delightful. She was delightful. She brought watermelon, and I brought an entire vegan spread of tahini dip with celery, cucumbers, tomatoes, an avocado for each of us, and a knife and fork. For desert, there was chocolate coconut milk that I had put in the freezer and it still had little ice chunks in it. Delightful. She had never had this treat. I had only found it at a gas station in Phoenix when I went to gather Pritham’s things. I was deeply in need of something yummy. It was the perfect thing. I had 1 bottle of this every day. Allana felt the same way and we literally giggled with delight. We were like little children. We felt we had discovered the adult version of chocolate milk (or chocolate milkshake).
After Allana left, I snorkeled in this very cold, clear water. It was magical. I had swum there often but never snorkeled. Grasses and seaweed all dancing; great schools of 10- to12-inch green fish; a big orange fish doing solo dances; a 3- to 4-foot, (yes, that’s in feet) black and brown fish; an entire valley of purple sea anemonesl—just one delight after another. I was truly ecstatic.
Then, the Divine tested my ecstasy as I inched home. Never take the 5 if you can help it. That’s even worse than the 405 drive—well, maybe not, but on that day, it was. I went to Gurudwara (our temple) that night and I really looked forward to this wonderful Kirtan group. It was the 8th month, exactly, after Pritham left her body. They were… how do I say it… kindly very loud and off-key. I moved outside and found that I could meditate beyond the loudness and get into the sound current of the words and let that uplift my soul. I got to play with the sound beneath the sound current.
How are you going to practice to play when it doesn’t seem like a play situation? How are you going to invite more play into your life? Please connect and tell me. Play with the Divine in each moment. All this is practice to do just that.
Wait till the Woman’s Retreat. We will be playing and getting the essence of your recharged.
All Love and Blessings in the Divine,