I have learned that our minds are so powerful that what they perceive is what we think is real. I could just leave it at that. And say just contemplate that. If you don’t like the perceptions you are caring around with you then you will have to have a deeper emotional charge to see beyond what you are holding on to.
I’m reading this book Anti Cancer. The author does a profile of the cancer prone person. One of the main things is those who are caring around wounds they have not been able to let go of or heal. That is many of us. So this is the time, this is the place to really let it go. What matters and what is hogging space in your heart and mind? What needs to be cleared out to let the light in? If you look deeply into those scars you will see that that person did what they did because it was the best they knew how to do at that time. It was self-preservation. It was trying to get some of the innocence they saw in you.
Blessing someone goes a far way to allowing it to transform. The meditation for transformation where you say Wahe Guru 40 times clears out anything that is not truly serving your ecstatic state. You deserve ecstasy so do something to serve it.
If you want more details of this meditation connect with me. Love and may you really go for what feeds you and let go of that which steals your life force.